We need forgiveness and someone to blame.
Behind my Wizard of Oz Mask: a pale writer,
near-sighted, close-minded, anxious, full of still
small voices: it’s not easy to raise the dead.
No one said it was.
Well, it’s not..
No one said
I’m walking here!
On three legs, sure,
but never the less:
I’m walking here!
Conversation—real conversation—is possible
only between people who share a world-view
at the deepest level. Given that shared world-view,
all sorts of topics may then be broached, all sorts
of disagreements risked, without putting an end
to the conversation and to the relationship.
Over the years, I’ve come to view offense as a
particularly useful state of being – but only
when the offense one feels is used properly.
Most people view being offended as an excuse
for shutting down, even going (you guessed it)
on the offensive. They refuse to be party to
whatever offensive material is being presented
to them, whether it’s someone making a sexist
joke or a politician’s attack ad.
The superficiality of conversation in our time
has to do with the absence of such a common
world-view. What we do have is something
very fragmented—viewpoints rather than
Consider the kinds of situations that make
us feel offended. We take offense when:
We are confronted with situations radically
different from those we’re used to.
And for lack of a world-view, we hold on to our
viewpoints with passion.
We experience situations that conflict strongly
with our own values. Our belief systems are
challenged or dismissed as inadequate. We
are labeled or otherwise treated in ways
that are inconsistent with our self-image.
How then is conversation possible?
Y-Fu Tuan “Dear Colleague” Emeritus Professor
of Geography at UW Madison. & Dustin Wax
“How to BE Offended” Stepcase Life Hack
We may be a faculty full of rebellious creativity,
sound & fury—to fight for, to die for: if the
opponent is Rush L, or Glen B. or Bill O,
sure: but basically and essentially,
eyebrows to toenails, we are:
Rebels with a Because
Creative in the Name of Sustainability
Recyclers for Planet Earth
Not that there’s anything wrong with THAT.
(Just describing here. Not a judgment.)