Shame Shame Shame.

         Shame.Shame. Shame.
     (not to be confused  with GUILT.)
  What it takes  for Young Professionals
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"Refusing their elders’ sense of where speech
and silence belong, they do not so much erase
the categories as redraw the lines. they lift the
old shame thresholds and place them in new
doorways. 

This kind of art settles on the line between
sacred and profane, opens a commerce
between the two, and by that commerce
sifts their content, or shifts the lines."
  
        But it's not as easy as  that,,
              Heaven's to Betsy No
                  
If shame has bound the tongue, even the most
ethical person must pass through a period that
has the feel of unalloyed betrayal and risk if he
or she is to speak again.
                 
The boundary markers cannot be moved unless
they are briefly lifted from their footing, and with
that the shapely reassuring world once held together
by faithful kinfolk disappears.

In its absence one needs  guides whose sense of
shame is not too finely tuned. ..

Speaking out where shame demands silence
depends largely on a consciousness that doesn’t
feel much inhibition, knows how traps are made
and knows how to subvert them.

        

From Lewis Hyde: The Trickster Makes This World